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Mon-21-03-2016, 11:18 AM
My Fiancé has has psoriasis for almost 8 years, however right now it's the worst it has ever been
We have been together for 3 and a bit years now and have 2 children.
I've supported him fully since he confided in me about his condition. At the beginning I didn't even notice it, but looking back on photos of us in the early days, I can now see it was there.
My poor baby has it over his entire body, scalp, face, chest and back, arms and legs. He's been seeing a dermatologist for over 2.5 years. He tried numerous creams and steroid lotions, light treatment for 16 weeks, methotrexate for almost a year and since Christmas he's been on Acitretin. We've cut out refined sugar and lactose, use coconut oil and even aloe vera. Nothing is helping. In fact right at this present time it's the worst I've ever ever seen it. Some of the marks on him are almost the size of palm on his legs.
No surprisingly he gets very very upset and down about it. I try my best to support him by putting the creams on him, cooking meals to help his diet. I wash his hair for him, I've researched the shit out of therapies and remedies to help try and ease his pain and discomfort. I feel a lot of the time he doesn't help himself though. He complains about how bad it is but then doesn't use the creams. I offer to help and he just says later but later doesn't happen. I've advised him to stop drinking and see if it helps as he always has a bad break out the day after alcohol but he doesn't even try to cut back to see if it makes any difference.
It's really beginning to affect our relationship in that we are never physical anymore. When ever I make advances I am rejected. It's been this way for months now and it's really beginning to get to me. Also his cleaning up after himself. The bath and sink is always full of hair and flaked skin, he doesn't wash it away, it's left to me to clean. We have wooden floors and he will just stand and scratch himself leaving skin everywhere...on the sofa on our bed. Our sheets are all blood and dead skin but he will never wash them or give the floor a once over. I'm ashamed to say that I'm fed up of cleaning up dead skin from everywhere when I've got enough to do looking after the babies.
I know he can't help it, but his lack of effort is really affecting me now. He thinks his psoriasis just affects him. I can't say anything to him with the fear of upsetting him. But it's upsetting me. It's like he's just given up!
So I've come here, to listen to others, to find other ways to help him or a way I can talk to him without offending.
I can't imagine what he goes through. I hate to see him cry and being in pain. I don't know what else I can do. Now I feel our relationship is suffering and I feel very low and sad about it.
I don't feel any better writing my feelings out, in fact I feel worse.
We have been together for 3 and a bit years now and have 2 children.
I've supported him fully since he confided in me about his condition. At the beginning I didn't even notice it, but looking back on photos of us in the early days, I can now see it was there.
My poor baby has it over his entire body, scalp, face, chest and back, arms and legs. He's been seeing a dermatologist for over 2.5 years. He tried numerous creams and steroid lotions, light treatment for 16 weeks, methotrexate for almost a year and since Christmas he's been on Acitretin. We've cut out refined sugar and lactose, use coconut oil and even aloe vera. Nothing is helping. In fact right at this present time it's the worst I've ever ever seen it. Some of the marks on him are almost the size of palm on his legs.
No surprisingly he gets very very upset and down about it. I try my best to support him by putting the creams on him, cooking meals to help his diet. I wash his hair for him, I've researched the shit out of therapies and remedies to help try and ease his pain and discomfort. I feel a lot of the time he doesn't help himself though. He complains about how bad it is but then doesn't use the creams. I offer to help and he just says later but later doesn't happen. I've advised him to stop drinking and see if it helps as he always has a bad break out the day after alcohol but he doesn't even try to cut back to see if it makes any difference.
It's really beginning to affect our relationship in that we are never physical anymore. When ever I make advances I am rejected. It's been this way for months now and it's really beginning to get to me. Also his cleaning up after himself. The bath and sink is always full of hair and flaked skin, he doesn't wash it away, it's left to me to clean. We have wooden floors and he will just stand and scratch himself leaving skin everywhere...on the sofa on our bed. Our sheets are all blood and dead skin but he will never wash them or give the floor a once over. I'm ashamed to say that I'm fed up of cleaning up dead skin from everywhere when I've got enough to do looking after the babies.
I know he can't help it, but his lack of effort is really affecting me now. He thinks his psoriasis just affects him. I can't say anything to him with the fear of upsetting him. But it's upsetting me. It's like he's just given up!
So I've come here, to listen to others, to find other ways to help him or a way I can talk to him without offending.
I can't imagine what he goes through. I hate to see him cry and being in pain. I don't know what else I can do. Now I feel our relationship is suffering and I feel very low and sad about it.
I don't feel any better writing my feelings out, in fact I feel worse.