Health Boards
Tue-15-11-2011, 17:10 PM
Hello Dastan 
I'm not female but I do understand what your girl friend is going through. I also understand how you feel too.
Psoriasis can put a huge strain on a relationship. for the person who has it they can feel ugly and it knocks their self esteem, another thing it can do is make us snappy with our partners! we know deep down you are trying to help but we will say things like "How do you know what it's like" For the person trying to help it is so difficult for you to understand how your partner is feeling and you will often think why Do I Bother.
I explained it to my wife one day like this: You can't possibly understand what it feels like for me to have psoriasis, the same as I can't possibly understand how you feel with premenstrual tension.
To get it across to her that you genuinely do want to help is difficult, but you are going in the right direction by joining here and asking the question. I would suggest you have a good look through some of the posts and try to get a feel of what it is like! you won't fully understand but it could help you in your approach to helping her.
Over time my wife has learnt it's best to leave me alone when I'm feeling down about it, but I have also learnt from her that she does care. it takes time and you do have to talk it over with each other. Try not to be jealous and just tell her you are there if she wants to talk about it. she must also learn to live with it and accept that she is lucky to have a partner who is willing to help and support.
Good luck with the Dermatology study we need more people like you, and you and your girl friend are very welcome to ask as many questions as you like. if we can help you we will. we may not have all the answers, but knowing there are others who understand is a great help.
P.S the
and 
are usualy aimed at me. because I make comments like "Think of the fun you could have with your girl friend playing medicine student and psoriasis patient, maybe you should offer her a massage with Coconut Oil" 
Regards.
Fred.
I'm not female but I do understand what your girl friend is going through. I also understand how you feel too.
Psoriasis can put a huge strain on a relationship. for the person who has it they can feel ugly and it knocks their self esteem, another thing it can do is make us snappy with our partners! we know deep down you are trying to help but we will say things like "How do you know what it's like" For the person trying to help it is so difficult for you to understand how your partner is feeling and you will often think why Do I Bother.
I explained it to my wife one day like this: You can't possibly understand what it feels like for me to have psoriasis, the same as I can't possibly understand how you feel with premenstrual tension.
To get it across to her that you genuinely do want to help is difficult, but you are going in the right direction by joining here and asking the question. I would suggest you have a good look through some of the posts and try to get a feel of what it is like! you won't fully understand but it could help you in your approach to helping her.
Over time my wife has learnt it's best to leave me alone when I'm feeling down about it, but I have also learnt from her that she does care. it takes time and you do have to talk it over with each other. Try not to be jealous and just tell her you are there if she wants to talk about it. she must also learn to live with it and accept that she is lucky to have a partner who is willing to help and support.
Good luck with the Dermatology study we need more people like you, and you and your girl friend are very welcome to ask as many questions as you like. if we can help you we will. we may not have all the answers, but knowing there are others who understand is a great help.
P.S the
and are usualy aimed at me. because I make comments like "Think of the fun you could have with your girl friend playing medicine student and psoriasis patient, maybe you should offer her a massage with Coconut Oil" Regards.
Fred.